Let that stuff go!

Hey everyone! Thanks for tuning in to another session of training. Today we are going to talking about letting go. Often times when we hear people talk about letting things go, it's always in the angle of relationships with others. For example, we talk about letting things go, when someone does something you don't like. Well I'm here to present a different angle of "letting go".

One of the greatest lessons I learned in early 2020(before Aunty Rona hit) was letting go of outcome/results in performance. When I first heard about this, I thought it was saying to not care about your performance/results. But after seeing this concept explained in several books and interviews, I've come to realization that letting go of outcome simply means not being attached to the results and instead put all your emphasis on the process to get those desired results. I honestly wish I knew this as a teenager because I wouldn't have been so hard on myself when I didn't get those desired results. The good news is that I now know this and now I am presenting it to you all. A quote from the book "Chop Wood, Carry Water" is "Trust the process and surrender the results". That quote is profound in several reasons because the process is the most important part of whatever journey that you're on. Also the results aren't in your control and it's important to focus on what you can control which is more often than not, the process itself.

Results aren't always train hard, study hard, work hard, and automatically good results automatically come. There's plenty of hard workers with absolutely nothing to show for it. Then sometimes you have the opposite, people who don't work hard and have the results that we think that hard work is supposed to bring. For this very reason, it is imperative that we don't become too emotionally attached to the results that we produce. I am going to share a few practical ways to let go of the outcome.

1. Focus on the work in front of you that needs get done: That work could mean studying for that exam, showing up to athletic practice and doing the necessary things to get prepared for that work presentation.
   

2. Acknowledging that you're more than the results you produce: You are a human being who is worthy of love and respect. You're bigger than your grades, salary, job title, and athletic stats.
   

3. Get comfortable with failing: At some point in your life, you're going to fail at something and that's okay. It happens to everyone and if someone said they never failed, they're lying.
   

4. Learn to love the journey: Find some fun in the journey and if you have a lot of fun in whatever it is that you're doing, the results won't seem to matter as much.
   

5. Be where your feet are: Do your absolute best to take things one day at a time. Try not to stress too much about a game that hasn't been played yet, an exam that hasn't been taken yet, or the interview that hasn't occurred just yet. Focus on the preparation of those things.
   

I hope you all find these ways helpful in your own personal journey to your goals. Thank you so much for tuning in to another session of training. I am looking forward to the next training session.

Until Next Time,

E. Ibadin